Relationship Attachment Test 30 questions, 15-20 min Even after the initial infatuation, my sense of self disappears when I am in a relationship.  Mostly true  Mostly false Without being in a relationship, I am nobody.  Mostly true  Mostly false I value my own opinions and ideas at least as much as I do my partner's.  Mostly true  Mostly false I disregard my own preferences in order to please others.  Mostly true  Mostly false If I was continuously mistreated or abused by my partner (emotionally, psychologically or physically), I would leave the relationship.  Mostly true  Mostly false I neglect my own needs and focus fully on the needs of the people I love.  Mostly true  Mostly false I frequently resent my partner for making me act against my will.  Mostly true  Mostly false My partner's anger does not affect the way I feel about myself in general.  Mostly true  Mostly false When my partner disagrees with me, I stand my ground.  Mostly true  Mostly false I give in at the first sign of my partner's disapproval.  Mostly true  Mostly false I can clearly formulate how I feel.  Mostly true  Mostly false I feel primarily responsible for all my partner's feelings, whether they are related to our couple or not.  Mostly true  Mostly false I am afraid that my partner would reject me if I were to express how I really feel.  Mostly true  Mostly false I would rather suffer internally than risk being rejected for standing up for myself.  Mostly true  Mostly false When my partner is upset, I automatically assume that it is my fault.  Mostly true  Mostly false I make sure that I don't do or say ANYTHING that might upset my partner, even when my concerns/criticisms are warranted.  Mostly true  Mostly false I assume total responsibility for my partner's happiness.  Mostly true  Mostly false I have to be whatever my partner wants me to be; otherwise s/he will leave me.  Mostly true  Mostly false I disregard and second-guess my own core values when they are in conflict with my partner's demands/behavior.  Mostly true  Mostly false I may (or may not) be devastated if we broke up, but I would survive.  Mostly true  Mostly false I cling to my relationships as if my life depended on them, and I cannot let go.  Mostly true  Mostly false All my self-worth stems from my partner's satisfaction with me.  Mostly true  Mostly false When I am unsure of my partner's opinion on a matter, I cannot make decisions, even insignificant ones.  Mostly true  Mostly false I live in constant fear of being rejected by my partner.  Mostly true  Mostly false My reactions and attitudes are determined by my partner's expectations.  Mostly true  Mostly false I am skilled at identifying my partner's state of mind, though I have trouble figuring out my own emotions.  Mostly true  Mostly false  I am perfectly capable of identifying my own emotions. Even if my partner disapproved of my friends, I would stay in touch with them.  Mostly true  Mostly false I would feel free to pursue my favorite hobbies and interests even if my partner didn't share them.  Mostly true  Mostly false I am keenly aware of what I want and don't want without my partner's input.  Mostly true  Mostly false I tend to downplay my true feelings if they are not in sync with my partner's.  Mostly true  Mostly false This test is scored online. Click once on the Score button below to see the results and interpretation. If the server fails to respond, try clicking again. Test developed by QueenDom.com. Copyright © 1996 - 2001