1. You hear through the grapevine that one of your friends is hosting a huge birthday bash on the weekend. You rush out and buy a great gift...but the invitation never comes! You find yourself at home alone watching reruns on Saturday night. The next Monday everyone is talking about the great party. What's your reaction?
   
   

   	I feel terribly hurt, but never admit it to anyone. It bothers me for days.
   	I am annoyed and demand to know why my friend didn't invite me.
   	I am angry and no longer consider him/her a friend.
   	I assume it was just a mix-up and forget about it.
   	I feel a little hurt, and approach my friend and nicely ask why I wasn't invited.
   	I feel hurt but time will heal the wounds.
   	I feel hurt but make a joking comment to my friend about it so it doesn't seem like a big deal.
   	I feel depressed and think about it for weeks.
   	I don't care and don't think about.

2. You've been working your butt off at work and your boss has finally taken notice. You're sure a promotion is coming any day. When you arrive at the office on a Monday morning, however, you find out that your co-worker got the promotion... so you're stuck in the same old grind. How do you react?
   
   

   	I get angry and confront my boss aggressively; it's not fair!
   	I get angry but don't say anything to my boss. It eats away at me for a few weeks.
   	feel frustrated and decide not to get my hopes up anymore, since things never work out.
   	I'm very disappointed, but feel too uncomfortable to ask my boss about it.
   	I'm disappointed but think there must be a reason. I talk to my boss and ask what I need to accomplish in order to advance.
   	I quit my job and lick my wounds for months.
   	I don't give it a second thought - All is fair in love and work!

3. When you think about the most difficult times you have faced in the past, what is your first thought?
   
   

   	"I'm so angry!"
   	"I can't think about it without getting physically ill!"
   	"Thank God that's behind me!"
   	"I wouldn't necessarily want to live it again, but I learned a lot from it."
   	"It's some kind of miracle that I survived that; I couldn't do it again."
   	"Why do these things happen to me? Life is so unfair!"

4. How would you describe the evolution of your self-esteem (specifically, how much you like who you are as a person) over the years?
   
   

   	It has increased with time and is at the highest it has ever been.
   	It's getting worse and worse.
   	I've experienced ups and downs, but generally I like myself.
   	I don't like myself very much and never have.

5. How strong, overall, do you feel you are emotionally?
   
   

   	Strong as an ox - I can survive anything.
   	Usually strong, but with moments of vulnerability.
   	Strong in some ways, vulnerable in others.
   	Somewhat strong, but leaning more towards vulnerable.
   	Very vulnerable.
   	To be truthful, I can't stand on my own two feet.

6. You arrive at work/school a bit early one morning, and on the way to your office/class you overhear two co-workers/classmates that you don't know very well discussing YOUR character flaws! What do you do?
   
   

   	I leave it alone; I don't really care what they think.
   	I leave it alone; I accept that I cannot possibly please everybody.
   	I confront them and tell them that I don't appreciate their behavior.
   	I go in the bathroom and let some steam out (by crying/screaming/hitting the wall) but never say anything to them.
   	I complain to my supervisor that they are spreading rumors about me.
   	I go home and call in sick for the rest of the week.
   	I get my revenge by spreading nasty rumors about them.
   	I quit school/my job.

7. How long does this event linger in your mind?
   
   

   	maximum five minutes
   	less than an hour
   	no more than half the day
   	all day
   	a couple days
   	most of the week
   	all week
   	over a week
   	I can't seem to get over it.

8. I often feel like a victim with little or no control over what happens to me.
   
   

   	Completely true
   	Generally true
   	Somewhat true
   	Generally false
   	Completely false

9. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
   
   

   	Completely true
   	Generally true
   	Somewhat true
   	Generally false
   	Completely false

10. We can overcome painful childhood memories and lessen their influence on our behavior and emotions.
    
    

    	Completely true
    	Generally true
    	Somewhat true
    	Generally false
    	Completely false

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