1. Would you enjoy a weekend by yourself, without the company of your partner?
   
   

   	Yes, I love having a weekend for myself from time to time.
   	I think I would like that.
   	I would be fine with it, but I wouldn't particularly enjoy myself.
   	I might like it, but it would make me feel a little bit uncomfortable.
   	I would, as long as I felt certain that my partner wasn't up to anything questionable.
   	I would NOT enjoy myself without having my partner by my side.

2. You and your partner are hanging out together but haven't said more than a few words to each other the entire evening. How would you feel about this?
   
   

   	Weird or upset - we usually talk when we hang out.
   	OK - sometimes we talk, sometimes we just keep silent.
   	Fine - we have been together for such a long time that we don't need to talk anymore.
   	Normal - we rarely talk to each other, and I got used to it.
   	Upset as usual - we rarely talk to each other, and it still bugs me.

3. How do you feel about spending time apart with respective friends?
   
   

   	Fine, we have our separate circles of friends and we are generally OK with it.
   	I am OK with it, but my mate is uncomfortable about spending time apart.
   	My mate is OK with it, but I am somewhat uncomfortable about spending time apart.
   	My mate is OK with it, but I am extremely uncomfortable about spending time apart.
   	We are both relatively uncomfortable about spending time apart.
   	We are both extremely uncomfortable about spending time apart.

4. Imagine that your partner is in trouble - s/he messed up in a relatively serious way (badmouthed his/her boss and is likely to get fired, caused an accident by driving recklessly, had a big fight with his/her family...) and is torn by guilt, shame, anger and panic. All this after you have repeatedly pointed out that his/her problematic behavior in this area will eventually backfire. How do you react?
   
   

   	I say, "Told you so!" and use the occasion to rub it in - hopefully, s/he will learn his/her lesson.
   	I support him/her and help him/her weather the storm without any reference to my gloomy forecasts.
   	I am there for her/him but I rub it in a little bit to teach him/her a lesson.
   	I ignore her/him - s/he brought it upon herself/himself.
   	I get angry with her/him - s/he should have listened to me!

5. How often do you spontaneously hug your partner, or plant him/her with a kiss?
   
   

   	I can't keep my hands off him/her.
   	It's a matter of hours.
   	It's a matter of days.
   	It's a matter of weeks.
   	It's a matter of months.
   	It's a matter of years.
   	It's been years since I have done that.

6. How often do you surprise your partner with something romantic or fun for the two of you to do (a fun day trip, a candlelight dinner, a little treat/gift, an unexpected phone call at work, a night out on the town, etc.)?
   
   

   	Often - on a weekly or daily basis
   	Sometimes - every couple of months
   	Rarely - perhaps on a yearly basis
   	It's been years since we have done something like this.
   	Never

7. Your anniversary is coming up. You and your partner agree to take a short trip together. Unfortunately, that is the only thing you agree on. You want to go camping, mountain biking and have romantic picnics in secluded clearings, while s/he wants to veg out on a beach, stay in a resort hotel, and watch sunsets. How do you deal with this difference in opinion?
   
   

   	We come to a compromise.
   	My way or none.
   	It's his/her way.
   	Neither of us gets our way- we are staying home.
   	It's time to break up-if we are so different, our relationship is doomed anyway.

8. Let's say that you have a co-worker that you find attractive. One day s/he asks you out for a drink. How would you respond?
   
   

   	"Sorry, no can do. I am taken."
   	"Sorry, I can't right now-maybe another time."
   	"I would love to, but my partner would freak out."
   	"How about a dinner to go along with the drink?"
   	"Let's skip the formal part; we can have a drink at your place."

9. When there is something that deeply bothers you about your relationship (a bottom line issue), how do you deal with it?
   
   

   	Denial is my middle name.
   	I deal with it kicking and screaming.
   	I ignore it; it will go away.
   	I deal with it with calm confrontation.
   	I deal with it in a co-operative way that involves discussion and/or compromise.

10. You would like to make love to your partner but s/he is not in the mood. How would you feel?
    
    

    	Fine, it happens - I can cope.
    	Slightly put-off, but only for a little while
    	Miserable and rejected
    	Frustrated and angry
    	Furious and cheated
    	Worried that s/he isn't attracted to me anymore
    	Panicked that our relationship is over

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