1. Your partner is out of town visiting his/her grandparents one weekend. You decide to go out one night, and lo and behold you bump into an old flame (who is looking great). Needless to say, the old chemistry is there and you are invited to spend the night. What is your most likely response?
   
   

   	Go for a night of passion; nobody will know.
   	Go for a night of passion, even though someone could feasibly find out.
   	Go for a night of passion without even thinking about consequences.
   	Go for a night of passion--my partner and I have already discussed this type of situation and agreed on a sexually open relationship.
   	Decline with great regrets and spend the night fantasizing about what could have been...
   	Politely decline, someone might have seen us talking.
   	Politely decline, I wouldn't compromise my relationship with my partner.
   	Decline vehemently-how dare this person jeopardize my current relationship?

2. You are working in an unfulfilling job but basically are quite settled where you live. Your partner just got an excellent job in another part of the country and would love to seize the career opportunity. S/he asks you to join him/her and offers to help you out financially until you stabilized and got a job. Leaving would mean saying goodbye to friends and family. What would you do?
   
   

   	Go with my partner readily.
   	Go with my partner, but with some reservations.
   	Go with my partner knowing that I can always move back if it doesn't work.
   	Go just for the fun of it-I have nothing to lose.
   	Go with my partner begrudgingly.
   	Stay behind, planning to join him/her soon.
   	Stay behind and try to stay in a long-distance relationship.
   	Stay behind and break it off.

3. You and your partner are getting ready for a fabulous night on the town with a large group of friends when your partner quite suddenly starts to feel ill. It appears to be the onset of a flu and s/he crawls into bed and refuses to budge. S/he is hit pretty hard, although medical attention doesn't seem necessary. You have been really excited for this night out. What do you do?
   
   

   	Stay home with him/her.
   	Stay home but feel cheated.
   	Ask if s/he would be okay, and go out only if s/he agrees.
   	Ask if s/he would be okay, and go out no matter what s/he says.
   	Tuck him/her in and go out anyway.
   	Go out anyway.
   	Think something along the lines of "Big baby!" and go out anyway.

4. Stressful life changes and loads of work have put your relationship on the back burner. In fact, you haven't had sex in a month. It seems that things have gotten distant between you two. What would be your most likely approach?
   
   

   	Arrange for a counselor-seems there's work to be done.
   	Meet with your partner and try to figure out ways to rekindle the relationship.
   	Eliminate some of your responsibilities so you can have more time for your partner.
   	Nothing-whatever happens is meant to be.
   	Break it off-seems things were headed for the gutter anyway.
   	The relationship would already be over--I couldn't last a month without sex.

5. Which of the following statements best describes your life?
   
   

   	I don't even have enough energy to keep my own life together, let alone care for someone else.
   	I have barely enough energy to keep my own life together-very little is left for somebody else.
   	I have my ups and downs, but in general I am in control of my life and have a lot to offer.
   	I have my act together and am ready to open my life to someone else.

6. When thinking 5 years down the road, how does your lover factor into your life?
   
   

   	S/he is part of all my future plans
   	S/he is part of most of my future plans
   	S/he is part of some of my future plans but for the most part, I am flying solo
   	Who knows where s/he will be in 5 years-certainly not by my side

7. You and your partner have been dreaming of going to a certain tropical island. On your way home from work, you notice a poster advertising a fabulous deal to that very island paradise. Everything is perfect. You can easily afford it and the dates of departure and arrival are totally feasible. The only thing is that you have to book the tickets now (for a vacation date 6 months down the road), and there is a pretty hefty cancellation fee. Do you make the reservation:
   
   

   	For the two of you
   	For yourself
   	I don't make the reservation---I can't make up my mind
   	I do make the reservation, but to be on the safe side I arrange for separate rooms
   	I do make the reservations, but as two separate vacations (each of us would go alone) during two different times (with no overlap)

8. You are hunting for a new place to live. You discover a gorgeous apartment that is about 30% over your budget. Your lover suggests renting it together - that way, you could easily afford it. What is your reaction?
   
   

   	I would rather rent something less fancy by myself.
   	I would rather rent it by myself and scramble for the rent money.
   	I would rather find another roommate to rent it with.
   	I would go for it-if it didn't work out I'd find another roommate or dip into my savings.
   	I would go for it--it makes perfect sense.
   	I would go for it-I've actually been toying with the idea for a while.

9. If you were to stay with your lover,
   
   

   	s/he would have to get rid of a few quirks
   	s/he would have to change substantially
   	s/he would have to change completely
   	I would be able to accept her/him pretty much as s/he is

10. Have you ever thought that your partner is a loser?
    
    

    	Regularly
    	Sometimes
    	Rarely
    	Barely ever
    	Never

11. I am comfortable with the possibility of remaining with my partner for the rest of my life
    
    Mostly true
    Mostly false

12. I am eager and willing to try and fulfill my partner's most important emotional needs.
    
    Mostly true
    Mostly false

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