Test: Are you assertive? 32 questions, 15-20 min I find it difficult to take a compliment. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I prefer not to criticize others, even if I am sure they are wrong. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I find it hard to tell someone that I like him or her or that I had a good time. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I feel comfortable asking my boss for a raise/promotion if I think I deserve it. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I avoid dealing with difficult situations involving confrontation. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I tend to be the leader in a group of friends. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I feel people take advantage of me. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time Talking to people in positions of authority makes me feel nervous, self-conscious, or unsure of myself. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I feel and act self-confident. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I express my opinions, even if others in the group disagree with me. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I feel awkward paying someone a compliment. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I am able to speak openly about my feelings. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I feel threatened when dealing with someone who is very assertive. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time If I am not satisfied with the service in a restaurant, I let the waiter know. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I feel free to politely voice my disagreement with someone in a position of authority. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time Opinionated people make me feel uncomfortable. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time Most people around me seem to be more assertive than I am. Not at all true Somewhat true Fairly true Quite true Very true I have nothing to lose by asking questions in front of other people. Strongly agree Agree Cannot say Disagree Strongly disagree To meet new people and make new friends, one has to get out, find them, and invest some time and energy. Strongly agree Agree Cannot say Disagree Strongly disagree When an argument is over, I replay the situation in my head, thinking of all the things I could have said, regretting that I hadn't thought of them then, or wishing I had the guts to say them. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I fear making phone calls to institutions, government agencies or businesses, because I might sound stupid if I don't understand the instructions. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time If my neighbors made too much noise, I would let them know. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I feel comfortable saying "No." Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time When I go out with someone, we do what my friends/partners suggest, even though I feel like doing something else. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I would keep defective merchandise, rather than return it to the store for a refund/exchange. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I am able to express my discontent with a friend or a partner if I think it's justified. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time Instead of arguing, I tend to accept responsibility for other people's mistakes. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time When I am overcharged in a store, I bring it to the cashier's attention. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I tend to buy from (or avoid altogether) door-to-door salespeople, because I am unable to refuse their merchandise. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time If a friend woke me up late at night with an unimportant phone call, I would say that I was already sleeping and prefer not to be called that late. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time I tend to be speechless when I am left alone with a person I find attractive. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time When a friend borrows something from me and forgets to return it, I feel comfortable reminding her/him. Almost never Rarely Sometimes Quite often Most of the time This test is scored online. Click once on the Score button below to see the results and interpretation. If the server fails to respond, try clicking again. Test developed by QueenDom.com. Copyright © 1996 - 2001